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Post by juppster on May 16, 2011 20:53:27 GMT
Hey, sounds as though you;ve been busy busy! I used to take mefenamic acid for my period pains before having my son but also had to take co codomol with them to get even a little bit of relief from them so empathy on that one. I didn't get a fb request mate so not sure if you got the right person!! Try not to overdo it, as Kat said, we tend to have a habit of going and going and not realising when we need to stop...be kind to yourself xx
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ingleby
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My son is aged 3 years in July. Offically diagnosed with PNI when he was six months old.
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Post by ingleby on Jun 18, 2011 21:43:24 GMT
Not had chance to get on here for a while, been really busy working nights and doing loads of overtime to save for a new car. Stopped taking the pill now so its baby making season!
Been having a bad time with the depression and pain. Pretty much bed ridden at moment with bleeding and pain. Not finding my pain management group very helpful,has suggested a few things which seem to work temporarily and can be put in place when I'm at home but still really struggling at work.
Fed up of my partner at moment don't feel like he supports me or understands how hard things are for me. I don't know how I can make him see how hard things are as I just get angry and frustrated when I try to speak to him about it. He says he doesn't think I'll cope with another baby as I already struggle with Caleb. The thing is I don't really have a choice I either have the children I want now or face the reality of not been able to have any more as my endometriosis gets worse. It took me long enough to catch on with Caleb and they are unable to try any more treatments until I have finished my family. I feel forced into the decision as I wanted to wait to have more children really but would be devastated if missed my chance because waited too long!
I'm quite pissed off really as I'm struggling in pain today and my partner has gone out drinking with work mates. I'm looking after Caleb on my own when he is hyperactive, jumping on me making the pain worse, feel like screaming so mad about it. Then my partner has a go at me saying I'm grumpy with Caleb! What does he expect, really? I have to book time off work as I know I will be really poorly when it's the time of the month and I normally find it more difficult been at home with Caleb then been at work. My partner knows all this so I don't get why he acts like he does? It doesn't seem very supportive. I think am I expecting too much of him? I know it much be a lot for him to deal with, he has to do most of the work with Caleb because of my health problems I struggle with a lot of things. Also my moods are all over the place cos of my hormones and depression so I'm not the easiest person to be around. I have no control over these things though so I don't know what to say about it! I work really hard at my job and studying which I think some people wouldn't do, they would just give up!
I find the whole situation really upsetting and feel in some ways it contributes towards my depression but I can't see any way to change things. I'm a human being in a lot of pain most of the time so I'm bound to be grumpy now and again. I barely sleep, can only really relax when have a drink and am scared to death of the future. Will I even get pregnant again? I'm going to have to go through hell with my periods until I do and how I'm going to keep my job with been on my last warning already for my sickness I don't know.
Sorry I'm venting on here, don't know who else to speak to about it at the moment. Don't see any of my friends cos of health problems and always working loads. Going to work is a break to me that's how bad it feels! Sorry TMI but I've been passing large clots today and feel really dizzy and light headed, plus taking Tramadol which practically knocks me out although the spasms of pain wake me up. Just feeling sorry for myself and like no one cares or notices how hard it is for me sometimes.
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Post by wanagetoverthis on Jun 18, 2011 23:55:35 GMT
Oh babe this sounds so difficult I'm so so soooo sorry you feel this way.
I get what you mean with your partner, I feel like mine is my 2nd child sometimes he's so bloody needy it's unreal, as if i don't have enough on... you feel shite enough without him adding to it but they're so good at that aren't they!?!?
My work is totally a break for me too, thank God for that quiet cuppa everyday!! Ppl just don't get that do they!? Well Mum's do but I'm the only Mum in the office where I work!!
Stay strong, don't let your illness rule you though hun... If you don't want more kids yet then don't force yourself... If and when it's right for you it'll happen I really believe that.
Here for you... Nat xxx
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Post by juppster on Jun 19, 2011 8:24:25 GMT
Hey, so lovely to hear from you again. Grrr on the other half..very frustrating for you. Have you sat down with him and told him exactly how tough you are finding things at the moment and also to see exactly how he is feeling? I do so empathise with you on the period pain and trying for a baby before its too late. I am in a very similar situation at the moment due to hubby's age and me only having 1 tube left! Its horrible to have to feel railroaded into having another baby before you are ready but as you say, if you leave it too long it may not happen...very tricky. I too agree on the going to work thing! I think most mums feel this way and you shouldn't feel guilty for it...this illness heaps loads of guilt on us but you need time for you..it is essential. Sending you big hugs mate, keep talking on here, we are all here for you xx
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Post by Weeble on Jun 22, 2011 9:10:12 GMT
Hi Sammy
sorry its taken me a bit to reply, the site has been busy and I have been very distracted. however, I did read what you wrote and felt amazed by your strength and energy. you are so caught in a hard place, endometrosis is a cruel illness and I dont think those of us who are lucky not to suffer understand how painful and dehabilitating it is ( not sure my spelling is up to scratch).
My personal view on all this is a child overrides everything and you are doing absolutely the right thing trying for your second child now. Do remember that over 99% of people get pregnant within two years of trying naturally.
Hope the last week has been ok
Kat
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