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Post by Weeble on Mar 24, 2010 21:28:27 GMT
Beckah
I had my worse experience in the NHS and my sister won two claims against local councils under the DDA, she is in a wheelchair for discrimination at work. I think public services are the worse than the private sector. I have worked in the private sector as well and things that happen in the public services would be dismissable offences in so many private organisations. (my spelling is really crap tonight).
Just remember you are in the right.
Will keep reading your posts and keeping everything crossed for you
Kat
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Post by winegirl on Mar 24, 2010 21:32:21 GMT
I agree Kat, I too have worked in both, and you would think that the private sector would be worse out of the two - but I think that tis is not the case! It makes no sense though??
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Post by beckah on Mar 28, 2010 17:01:36 GMT
Hi ladies
Well i've not heard anything else from work this week since i dropped my note off, i think the "stress at work" part may have been the clue that they need to leave me alone.
I'm feeling ok at the moment, lets hope i'm not jinxing myself. I've had a stomach bug this weekend though so perhaps that has distracted me.
I didn't pick the prescription up for the fluoxetine, seriously i completely forgot about it until i found it in my purse earlier. So i think that's quite telling of the fact that when i'm busy i don't really need anything. It's boredom and too much time to think that seems to bring my anxiety screaming back to me.
I'm due back at work on 12th April because of how my note has fallen with easter etc. so i will go back to see GP end of next week and get a fit for work statement or whatever it is and then i have the appointment with the OH on the 12th April when i am due back at work so we'll see what happens at that appointment.
I don't really know what to say to them when i go. I am toying with the idea of changing my hours at work and doing monday, tuesday and wednesday but less hours on those days so i still only work 16 hours then everything will be so much more relaxed i think. I can at least try it and i think they have to be accommodating of this sort of request due to the circumstances so if i think about this over the next couple of weeks, check whether nursery has availability, check whether tax credits will help with nursery costs for three days instead of two etc etc. But i think this may be a positive step towards making going to work easier. Its something i can try at least.
Hope you guys are all ok and thanks for your support xxxxxxx
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Post by juppster on Mar 29, 2010 8:24:23 GMT
Hey
Im glad you ar starting to feel a little better....i completely agree with you about the boredom thing...i know if I had more to do my mind would be more occupied resulting in less anxiety and depression (i think!!)
Sorry you're having such a nightmare with work..my husband experienced a similar thing last year when he had a period off due to stress (probably dealing with me!!) but i know as soon as the doctors got involved and provided him with meds and a doctors note they backed off completely and let him ease himself back into work gradually. I think your idea of changing your hours sounds great if they will accommodate this...if it makes you feel less stressed then it has to be the best solution for everyone me thinks.
Good luck with it all xx
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Post by Weeble on Mar 29, 2010 15:05:05 GMT
Hi Beckah
Great to read your note and see how things are improving for you. You seem to be in control over this and managing so congratulations, you are managing the situation extremely well hold you head high on the 12th. Do you have anything good planned for Easter?
I picked up a really good tip from my friend the other day for managing worries, and it seems to work. I give myself worry time, I always do it in the same place. While I am allowing myself worry time I just sit and let myself worry as much as I want I let all the silly ideas, thoughts etc run through my head. I then write them all down. once I have done that I turn it round by saying so what would happen if that happens etc. Then when I move away from my worry place I dont allow myself to worry. It seems to be working, although I am only just starting to do it. my friend says she time limits it, but I find I need to run through every worry I dont know if it might help but thought I would share the idea
Kat
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Post by beckah on May 5, 2010 15:43:11 GMT
Hi ladies
Well i'm back and blippy. Keep getting harm thoughts about Violet, havent had anything like this for such a long time, well not that i've believed them anyway. But at the moment i'm so tired that i'm scared i'll lose my temper as i'm being so short tempered with her at the moment. I'm not enjoying being on my own with her and i haven't felt like this for quite a while. I seem to get blippy in the week off from taking my pill and i'm wondering now if the pill is actually keeping me levelled out and when i have my week off it's triggering me, so maybe i should try the mini pill with no break??? Any ideas???
Other than that there's not much to report. I've been back at work a few weeks and it's ok. Not enjoying being there but then i'm not sure i ever have since i had Violet. Wish i didn't have to work, just feels like constant pressure to be well.
Also got some relationship stuff going on so gonna go over to that section and get a few things off my chest i think.
Thinking of you all xxxxx
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Post by winegirl on May 5, 2010 17:07:42 GMT
You f*rt! You told me you were ok when we spoke earlier! I would have rang if I knew you were struggling!!
Perhaps its all teh other things going on in your life that have caused you to feel like this as a trigger as opposed to the pill? Maybe give it another month?
Will pop into relationship section in a bit to catch up properly dude xxx
You know where I am
WG x
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Post by beckah on Aug 11, 2010 12:03:06 GMT
Hi ladies
Just an update. Been suffering with anxiety again, i seem to be able to keep it under control but its the ocd thoughts that are the worst ones. I become so obssessed and i can't seem to talk myself out of it but then i guess that's what ocd is isn't it?
Got some relationship issues as usual so gonna head over to that section. Sometimes helps just to vent.
Take care ladies, thinking of you all xxxxxxxxxxx
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Post by beckah on Sept 28, 2010 8:53:19 GMT
Hi ladies Well, things kind of came to a head last week after an extreme night terror which caused me to bolt out of bed and fall down the stairs as my feet wouldn't work as quick as my brain (thinking maybe i need a stairgate rather than Violet). Anyway, i took a diazepam which settled me but the next day i decided to try meds. Violet will be 3 in February and i can't carry on like this so i've gone on 20mg fluoxetine. Anxiety really worsened for the first few days but i'm on dfay 7 today and, dare i say it, but the anxiety seems to have eased a little, well the physical symptoms anyway. However, i am really paranoid, more so than i was before. Have horrible ocd constantly and really nasty intrusive thoughts. And every night i have taken them i have had the most bizarre dreams and a really upsetting nightmare last night. I am usually a dreamless sleeper so am finding this quite distressing :-( Anybody got any words of wisdom for me? I've got an appointment to see my GP on thursday which will be day 9 of the meds. Don't think she'll do much as other than the dreams and the loss of appetite, i think i'm getting off quite lightly? xxx
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Post by butterfly on Sept 28, 2010 21:36:04 GMT
hi there when it comes to wisdom, i have little I am afraid but talking to your GP is totally the right thing to do - I dont knwo if your under the CMHT if your not ask to be referred maybe they can help you. Dreams and thoughts - are just that. Sometimes we over think when we are depressed and I thinkthat sometimes causes stuff. Hoping you feel a little improvement in your thoughts and feelings soon BFx
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Post by beckah on Dec 13, 2010 14:06:10 GMT
Hi ladies
Thought i'd pop back in for an update. Well i've been on 20mg fluoxetine for about 2 1/2 months now and the only side effect i suffer with now is bizarre dreams but they rarely feel like nightmares anymore which is a positive, i'm just still struggling to get used to having such bizarre dreams and quite often wake and try to analyse them and then get anxious that my brain is mad since my dreams are so bizarre! But i really know that it's just a side effect of the meds and that all in all i think they are helping me in day to day life.
So much so that my lovely man friend and i are going to Iceland in March to a secluded ranch in the middle of nowhere in the hope of seeing the Northern Lights. We're away for 5 nights and i'm fretting a little as it will be the first time i've left Violet and have never been away from her for longer than 2 nights :-( But i really want to do it and the lure of the jacuzzis and geothermal hot tubs is too much to pass up. However, and this is a big huge however, i have to drive across Iceland, on the wrong side of the road and the wrong side of the car (well wrong for me anyway lol). But it's a challenge and i'm kind of looking forward to it as i know i'll feel really proud of myself when i've done it. And hopefully i'll come back refreshed and relaxed and it will be all lovely! Watch this space!
Christmas in my house this year will be a little strange as Matt (Violet's dad who i split up with 18 months ago) will be here for xmas eve and xmas dinner. I don't want him here particularly but feel i should do the right thing by Violet and he would love to see her open her presents i suppose. But also my brother and his daughter will be here too so that will be lovely to spend xmas dinner with them. And this is the first year Violet is really excited about Father Christmas and leaving mince pies etc. So i feel very excited too.
Anyway, hope everyone is well. I'll try and pop back in before xmas but if i don't, i hope everyone has a lovely christmas and new year and i'll be raising a glass to you all over the festive period. Here's to us xxxxxxxxxxxx
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Post by chica on Dec 13, 2010 14:49:37 GMT
Hi Beckah,
Lovely to hear from you again, and it sounds like things are really coming together for you, which is wonderful news. Try not to worry about the weird dreams, it really is one of the most common side effects of fluoxetine, they freaked me out at first, thinking my brain really had gone mad, but once the doctor and everyone else reassured me that it was just the fluoxetine and not me, I started to relax a little, and eventually could laugh at them, cos believe you me, sometimes they were well weird and whacky lol.
It sounds like you have a wonderful holiday coming up too, driving on the wrong side of the road and car as it were, isnt that tricky, just remember all the time that the driver has to be in the middle of the road bit, rather than on the kerb bit and you will be fine, the only thing that takes a bit of getting used to as well, is going to change gear with the wrong hand, and looking in the wrong place for the rear view mirror, but honestly, it will click into place quite quickly.
Hope you have a wonderful christmas too, as you say Violet is reaching that magical age, where she has excitement and the suspense and wonderment of father christmas coming, its making me smile just thinking about it. So if we dont speak to you before, have a great one!!
xxxxxx
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