Em
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Post by Em on Jul 12, 2007 20:33:01 GMT
My OH been making 'sex' comments all day. Started first thing this morning when I got out of shower and there he is standing there naked telling me he was just about to join me. All I could think was thank god I got out when I did. Several times today I've had to put up with being groped. I am sick of it. Had a really bad experience in my late teens and all this is doing is bringing back bad memories.
He went to bed at half 8 and I'm avoiding going up at all costs. I have told him and told him and told him again that I'm not in the mood. Not that that seems to matter when he's in a mood like this. Sometimes I wish he'd just go and pay someone for a quickie if it would mean I wouldn't have to feel like I'm being used and violated.
He would be devasted if he read this and saw I used them words about him. He's a really lovely man and a fantastic dad, but this is how I feel when it comes to the sex issue.
The HV is coming back to see me tomorrow afternoon. I was in a state when she came on Wednesday. I doubt much will have changed tomorrow - though maybe my eyes won't be red and swollen, not cried today!
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Post by Em on Jul 13, 2007 19:47:57 GMT
I've just read back what I wrote last night. I went to bed and I knew what was gonna happen. Told him I'm not in the mood but he wouldn't give up ... in the end desperate to be left alone so I could get some sleep I gave in. After he said he felt awful. Good. I hope he did, cos I sure did.
Had a crap day today. Been really hard. Glad to see HV, bout the highlight of my day. Hope 2moro better.
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Post by babybumble on Jul 14, 2007 18:02:42 GMT
aww hun know wot u mean for an easy life we just "get on " with it....
hope things are better today sweetie
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Post by Em on Jul 15, 2007 19:33:15 GMT
Wot a day.
First thing this morning Tomas fell and knocked his head he got up and walked into the lounge making a funny noise. Then he fainted and fell on his chin. OH picked him up and shouted "he's fitting". I grabbed hold of him and he stopped breathing then started fitting again. OH dialed 999 and not long after we had a paramedic and ambulance at our house. He soon came to but he was white and dozey. We had a few hours in hospital then lil man made an excellent recovery so they let us bring him home.
It was so scary. Me and OH both really shaken up.
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Post by babybumble on Jul 15, 2007 21:10:54 GMT
holy shite hope you all have calmed down.....bless the little man u must of been soooo scared
sending big hugs to u all xxxxxxxxxx
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Post by helenr on Jul 16, 2007 20:13:39 GMT
Oh hun,
you poor thing! How is he now? And how are you?
Thinking of you all love and hugs x
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Post by sianyc on Jul 17, 2007 9:31:54 GMT
Oh God, just caught up on your posts. How are you all doing since then?
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Post by Em on Jul 17, 2007 21:48:20 GMT
Last few days been awful! On Monday we discovered Tomas can't eat cos his mouth is so sore from where he fainted and landed on it. I rang hospital and then had to take him in. He had 3 x-rays then sat around till half nine last night before the doctors decided they were not experienced enough to interpret the x-rays to see if he had a fracture. I was fuming! Had to take him home and wait for a phone call on Tues. This morning I got a phone call to say they had emailed the x-rays to a facial surgeon and he had to go straight away and see them. So, I grabbed Theo's change bag and a bottle and we rushed to a different hospital. I then had to sit for an hour and a half in the waiting room cos the old hospital had not emailed a referal!! It was a nightmare. I had one baby whining cos he was hungry + bored and a toddler whining cos he was sore + very bored. Once we were seen the dr decided a different type of x-ray was needed - in another part of the hospital! I wanted to fall to my knees and cry!! To cut the story short, they still don't know if his jaw is fractured or not! Tomas still can't eat either. Gotta go back next week. Really at the end of my tether. After the hospital trip 2day I walked back into the house and cried my eyes out. There was 2 baskets full of ironing to do, a washer full of washing to hang out, dried up sticky juice on the lounge floor, crushed sweet on the hall floor ... could go on and on but I'll stop! On top of all of this I had Theo crying for some food and Tomas wanting a dvd putting on. When OH got home he took Tomas and Jake out for a bit, and I cried my eyes out again. I'm so so stressed out and feel like I can't take any more. Really worried too cos my sick note runs out on Wednesday and my boss wants to see me on Thursday. Not sure what its all about. Won't be working again till Sept cos I work in a school but really worrying about this meeting. Can this week get any worse?
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Post by Em on Jul 17, 2007 21:50:04 GMT
PS Thank u 4 all the messages! x
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Post by Em on Jul 18, 2007 11:35:15 GMT
Could not sleep last night. Sat up till half one, then laid awake in bed till after half three and boys up at six. Could not switch off. Wish I had a bottle of wine in the house!
Had to run in the mums race at pre-school sports day this am and I came last - by a long way! Reckon the others had been practicing!
Too tired to be bothered with anything today. Tomas sat with glitter and glue right now. Can see how this is gonna end but hey ho ...
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Post by cheshire on Jul 19, 2007 8:52:34 GMT
Hi Emma,
I hated the not being able to sleep thing - hope you had a better night last night?
As for running in the mum's race - you're braver than me!
Love and thoughts Hopefulx
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Post by chica on Jul 19, 2007 10:52:22 GMT
Just want to send you lots of love hugs and support to all of you. Has Tomas managed to eat anything yet? Can he manage fromage frais or anything similar? My little boy had great trouble eating at one time and my HV suggested I just gave him lots purees yohgurts and fromage frais, until he was able to eat again.
Thinking of you
Chica
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Post by Em on Jul 19, 2007 17:48:36 GMT
Another stressful day...
Had to go and see my boss today - didn't know why so been really worried. Did not sleep at all last night and I've not eaten with all the stress. My in-laws came over to look after the kids whilst I went but I took Tomas with me as I feel more confident when one of them is with me. Meeting was nothing much really. She wanted to ask how I was and if I thought I was really fit for work. Got to go and see some occupational health worker - God knows what thats all about and I didn't want to ask.
This afternoon my MIL offered to look after boys whilst I had a sleep so jumped at the opportunity. However a while later she came and woke me up and said I needed to come quickly as Tomas was having another fit. He was on the trampoline and he hurt his back and the shock made him fit, but not as bad as Sunday. He was fine once he'd slept it off. Scary.
Busy weekend coming up. We're going to a Christening in London on Sunday so to reduce the stress we're breaking up the journey with a stay in a nice hotel Sat - Mon. Really looking forward to it. Not looked forward to anything for a long time.
Tomas doing a bit better with his eating. Keeping him topped up with calpol and ibuprofen. He's had loads of yogurts, some ice-cream and a bit of pasta.
Fingers x'd for a good stress free weekend - and a few saunas!!
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Post by winegirl on Jul 19, 2007 19:25:28 GMT
Hi Emma
Sorry your poor boy is suffering with these fits. It must be so traumatic for both of you? You seem to handle it really well though!
I hope you have a lovely break, you deserve it! Chill out and relax, I'm sure you will if you spend most of your time in those saunas LOL!
Love
Winegirl x
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Post by Em on Jul 22, 2007 21:55:13 GMT
Back home a day earlier than planned.
I realised I made a mistake with hotel booking - had booked sat & sun night but then I remembered I'm looking after a friend's son on Monday so had to change plans. I am so dopey and forgetful! Had to book a different hotel and was bit disappointed cos it only had an outdoor pool. Was good to get away but very stressful having to sleep in the same room as the kids and do a long car journey with them.
Glad to be home anyway. Away again for a weeks holiday next Saturday so lots to sort out.
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