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Post by winegirl on Feb 17, 2008 21:33:45 GMT
Thats great hun. Perhaps you could do a rose bush or maybe even a miniature peach tree? If there is anything we can do to help you only have to ask. Let us know how you get on with it babes. Stay strong x
WG xx
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Post by rebecca on Feb 17, 2008 21:35:35 GMT
Deff a rose bush and i know exactley where to put it thank you so much xxx
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Post by chica on Feb 18, 2008 10:32:26 GMT
So sorry to hear that your treasured photos have now been stolen, I cannot believe that people are being so cruel to you. If I lived anywhere near them I would come and smack them one. Hopefully one day they will get their comeuppance. The rose bush idea, sounds really good. Your own private space. Any idea which colour yet, there really are some beauties around.
Sending you huge hugs and strength.
Chica
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Post by Scarlet on Feb 18, 2008 10:49:49 GMT
Awww Rebecca, I am so sad when I hear the photos of your precious baby have been stolen. What person would do this?
I think WGs idea of a rosebush is lovely, and I am so glad you are going to plant one. Having a special place you can visit where you will be able to have some time alone with your thoughts about your LO, is a wonderful idea.
Huge hugs sent your way
Scarlet xxxxxx
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 18, 2008 10:56:54 GMT
Oh Rebecca, I'm so s0rry about your pics. Its such a terrible thing for someone to do. But as WG says your son will be in your heart forever and no-on can take that away.
The rosebush is a fantastic idea. It'll be such comfort for you to be able to go somewhere to remember him and know that on-one will know about it. That reallys will be a private place for you and your son.
You are sounding so much more positive. I'm happy you have found this little piece of comfort.
Sending my love and hugs Sarah x
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Post by rebecca on Feb 18, 2008 13:14:56 GMT
Well ladies i am close to snapping really close i open my emails i have a email one conversation off Emmy to ALan with him completly bad mouthing me and my son ( i dont knw if its true) if thats not enought I THEN open another email to find MY SONS private pics with black all over them and in big yellow letter the word DEAD is written over them she said alan sent them to her and did that and she has forwarded the emails to my dad and godmother and friend i dont even know if he did that omg i dont know im gunna go mad u cant post pics on here can you other wise i would show you all what has been done
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Post by gizmoracer on Feb 18, 2008 16:06:49 GMT
Oh Rebecca I have just read up on your last few posts how terrible. I really feel for you. Firstly I think like the others say a rose bush idea is great, keep it to yourself so that there is no chance of that being vandalised. I also found when I lost a baby to miscarrage that writing a letter or poem to them is a good form of thereapy. Perhaps you could make a scrape book of things like this, along with anything you have left from the hospital, cards etc. I'm not sure what you have.
With regards the e-mails, I don't know what to say. Chances are the conversation is not real and I should think that was probably put there to upset you but just incase it didn't work ... well I guess thats where the photos come in. There is a way of posting photos on here you need to sign up to photobucket.
Not sure what else to say I just hope that we can be of some comfort to you.
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Post by winegirl on Feb 18, 2008 16:14:16 GMT
I am so sorry babes. Are these emails from that Emmy? I would get the police involved on thr grounds of harrasment, its disgusting and quite frankly i cant say on here what i would do to this person if I were you.
Focus on that rose bush hun, only you will know about that, its just for you and your son, noone can take that from you, he will know that it is special for you guys too.
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Post by rebecca on Feb 18, 2008 17:33:32 GMT
This is that conversation
24/01/2008 17:16:47 - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( cnt do a single fing bout it cnt do nefin n cnt giv birth to it 4 her she gota grow up nd do it herslf. 24/01/2008 17:16:57 - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( ur jus like beckie dnt listen jus say wot u wana say 24/01/2008 17:17:25 :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - ok im sick of hearin all dis s**t now dnt you care shi is cryin 24/01/2008 17:18:46 - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( wel i cnt wipe her tears she got 2 herself 24/01/2008 17:19:50 :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - Don’t u fink dats bit harsh 24/01/2008 17:20:53 - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( Well na she duz my hed in tbh ye insted of getin stressd out n stroppy n wastin energy sayn help me help me help me to me ova n ova she shud jus cut da shit I dnt luv the kid I h8 it nd Beckie I want it to die I ave a new grlf I want Beckie nd da babi to f**k off out my life 24/01/2008 17:21:26 - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( ino its s**t ino no grl wants 2 do it but gota b dun becoz of her f***n family forcin her not 2 av abortion not my falt isit she had2 go frew wiv it cud of been ova months ago 24/01/2008 17:22:22 :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - anything else 24/01/2008 17:24:04 - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( evryday I get bugd from her family or frends like do dis do dat y aint u helpin, coz it actuly impossible 2 help I h8 her I dnt wanna hlp her I h8 the baby i dont ava 200 mile extending back scratcher u get me 2 scratch her bk ffs ye n wen i say fings 2 beckie she gets ina f***n strop like shes mental or sumin n cnt undastand logical fings and goes n dus stupid fings like do it urly n bothers me wiv all da s**t wen she can jus leve it til da 24th 24/01/2008 17:26:22 :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - Anything else 24/01/2008 17:27:27 - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( Look I had sex wit her bucz I was horny I dint find her attractive ugly as f*k nd fat as f*k to I was embarasd bout bein out wit her me nd mates wud wlk in front of her dint wnt pple finkin I was wit her I wuz jst horny dats all . nd na dnt wnt a kid wit her I dnt wnt nefin to do wit her 24/01/2008 17:27:30 - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( Nd I hav a grlf now nd I dnt wnt nefin mor to do wit Beckie nd da babi dnt want to hlp her or c da babi im nt goin to da funeral Beckie cn deal wit dat on her own I dnt wnt nefin to do wit eiver of dem 24/01/2008 17:28:15 :'(Emmy and brayden both physically and mentally exhausted:'( - 2ºº8 - Ali - 2ºº8 - Your a w****r
That was the conversation i was sent i dont think he said it a) he's never said a bad thing about me b) he wouldnt say i was fat as i was classed as anorexic. c) i dont think anyone would be as heartless as that.
ive tried uploading that picute thing but it wont let me i mean can you see why im being dragged further and further down i just want to get better and forget all this i need to move on but my head wont let me and nor will anyone elsexxx
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Post by winegirl on Feb 19, 2008 8:32:14 GMT
Hi rebecca
Sorry this is a quickie but I am at work. Just wanted to say that looking at that email it was all staged and i dont think it was a conversation that ever took place. Just to keep replying with `anything else' says to me that it is utterly made up. Delete it and forget about it. It is pathetic that this has been sent to you. Rise above it babes, you have more important things to deal with x
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 19, 2008 12:20:01 GMT
Hi rebecca,
I agree with Wg as she says to keep saying anything else, shows that its made up. Its not even a proper conversation its just random bits if abuse thrown in to make you feel bad about yorself. This Emmy sounds like a heartless C** and I'm too poilte to say what I'd want to do to her. I agree tho. Contact the police for hassarment. keep the email she sent so you have proof. As for the pics, well thats just sick. Shes obviously some sort of twisted and pathetic person. You are much better off without her!
You are a bigger and stronger person than she is. You can pass this rubbish and move on with grieving for you son. Concentrate on the rose bush and other positive things. The scrap book sounds great. But keep it all completely private. I wouldnt trust anyone just now. In time you could just just now things are too raw.
Sending my love Sarah xx
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Post by winegirl on Feb 19, 2008 18:06:20 GMT
Hi Rebecca
How are you doing this evening babes? Thinking of you xx
WG x
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Post by rebecca on Feb 19, 2008 18:25:35 GMT
eya hun im having a really bad day (and thats putting it polite) im just having a really hard time i feel like ive gone back down again i went the docs and they put me on these anti depressants and went to councelling. Just want to be me again xxx
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Post by chica on Feb 19, 2008 18:44:07 GMT
Oh sweetheart, Hang on in there, you will get back to your old self I promise you that. It is just going to take some time, you have been through so much, you have to allow yourself time to grieve, and time to get over all the hormone changes, this illness really is the pits, never mind having to deal with all the other things that you are trying to have to deal with and come to terms with. What antidepressants has the doctor put you on? Well done in being so brave in speaking to them by the way, I know that it will have taken a lot of courage. I have not had counselling as it is not available where I live, but from what I understand the first few times can be extremely painful, and bring things back up to the surface that you would rather not, but an awful lot of ladies on here, have also said that it is worth sticking with. Please believe you will come through all this, and we will be with you all the way.
Sending you huge hugs and strength.l
Chica
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Post by rebecca on Feb 19, 2008 19:46:04 GMT
They are called Dosulepin, The doctor also said because i had to feed him that when you stop breastfeeding it causes massive hormonal changes to??. As far as the councelling goes i just don't feel like im getting it or maybe the woman who is councelling me is the wrong one i just don't know i just feel like im at that bottom patch again Thanks to everyone from the bottom of my heart you are all helping me more then any of my friends and family have. xxx
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