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Post by winegirl on Feb 19, 2008 20:05:25 GMT
Hi Rebecca
Counselling is tough. Its one of those things that many women find pointless for ages and tehn things start to click before they feel better. Stick with it hun, it will be worth it in the long run.
You have done really well to get counselling so quickly, I live in Nottingham and the waiting list is miles long.
Have you just started the meds today? The first couple of weeks on them can be tough but it does get better and after a few weeks you should really start to see the benefits.
Are you living at home with your family or do you live alone? Is there anyone around for you in the day?
You know we are always here and just ask oif there is anything we can do to help x
WG x
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Post by monica on Feb 20, 2008 10:07:12 GMT
Hello Rebecca
I've just been catching up and my heart really goes out to you. You have been through a horrific experience with losing your baby but also your friends behaviour is absolutely dispicable (putting it mildly). Words fail me how evil some people can be.
Losing a baby is an awful experience and your feelings can be all over the place - the shock of going inot premature labour, having your baby son and then the stress of not knowing what was going to hapen to him and of course, him dying can leave you feeling numb, angry, bitter, empty to mention but a few. Often you can feel so guilty for not feeling what you think you should be feeling. But it is clear from what you write that you love him so much. Your hormones are also all over the place and all the issues with baby's dad and the stuff this girl has done are bound to leave you feeling dreadful.
I't tragic that your so called friend stole your photos of you and baby Alan. I think you mentioned that the police are involved - is there anything they can do to get them back? Often the hospital take photos for their records - maybe you could get copies if you asked them?
I lost a baby boy at 19 weeks last year - the circumstances were different as he died in teh womb. I've got a keepsake box with his little tags, a blanket he was wrapped in, a certificate from thehosptial and other bits and pieces, a birth book where I wrote about his birth, funeral and how we felt. I feel it's a reminder of his short life and something solid I can go back too and look at when I feel I want to.
How are you feeling withthe meds? As someone else said they can make you feel worse initially but hopefully when they kick in you'll start to feel a little better.
Here for you
Monica
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 20, 2008 16:00:26 GMT
Hi Rebecca hunni,
Well done you on going to the doc, we all know how hard it is to make that first app when you ask for help. I had a foolow up app 2dat actually and theres such an improvement on how I felt that first time i walked in there. You'll be there to hunni, soon I promise. It really does get better!
I was told by the doc they would take about 10 days to start working effectively. I was counting down the days till I felt the diff and I can honestly say but about day 10 when I looked back i really did see a dif. hang in there hunni. It gets better.
How you feeling today? Is there anything positive you can think of from today?
Love and hugs Sarah xx
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Post by rebecca on Feb 20, 2008 18:45:20 GMT
o monica im so sorry for your loss i made a scrap book today just me on my own it was nice i tried to turn it into a positive thing if that sounds good. I cant get my pics back im just so fustrated as that was just something for me and baby alans dad. The meds im on just knock me out i feel like a zombie. Well WG im living with my dad at the mo but my house is like a open house thers always someone here but no ones hardly talking to me!!:@:@:@ and yep i had something positive today i got a letter from virgin Atlantic airways saying they are so impressed by all my previous work they would like me to start working as cabin crew in August. xxx
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Post by winegirl on Feb 20, 2008 19:54:35 GMT
Hi Rebecca,
Thats great! Thats two positives today, you should be so pleased!!
Working on a new career could be so great for you! If I had my chance again I would work my backside off to follow my dreams.
The scrapbook sounds like a lovely idea, you can keep it to yourslef, dont tell anyone, just something private and special for you to go along with the rose bush.
I'm a bit of a believer in life after death and all that and believe are loved ones are watching what we are doing. I believe that your son would be so proud to see his mummy make something great from her life with a sparkling career!
Sending you love
WG x
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 21, 2008 11:57:51 GMT
Hi Rebecca,
Wg is right, thats 2 positives from yesterday. Well done!!
Great news re the job. Are you looking forward to it? It sounds like a great thing for you to do. A positive career move is something that will help you greatly in your recovery.
The scrap book is something special for you to have. I'm glad that you managed to do it. And I'm a believer too. Your little one will be looking down at his mummy proud that she is moving on to a great new job and finding positive things to remember him by.
Hows the rose bush coming along?
Love and hugs Sarah xx
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Post by Scarlet on Feb 21, 2008 12:02:36 GMT
i got a letter from virgin Atlantic airways saying they are so impressed by all my previous work they would like me to start working as cabin crew in August. xxx
Go for it Rebecca, it's just what you need to change your life around. Congratulations hun, you deserve it.
xxxxx
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Post by winegirl on Feb 21, 2008 20:57:40 GMT
Hi Hun
How are you doing today? Just wanted you to know that I am thinking of you xx
WG x
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Post by rebecca on Feb 21, 2008 21:41:52 GMT
aww thank you all so much im really excited hasnt quite sunk in yet i mean i have to move to heathrow but its a move i always knew i would make. And thank you all about the comments from baby alan i hope he is proud of me im going to do my best to make sure he will always be proud of me. Well i kind of know where i want to put the rose bush but im not 100% sure yet. And Hi Wg im doing k today hun feeling very tired and a bit worn down and thank you hun xxx
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 21, 2008 23:05:12 GMT
I'm glad to hear you are feeling more positive. Its a great move re the job, and maybe a new start at heathrow is exactly what you need.
Baby Alan will def be proud of you for that one.
Thats good about the rose bush. I'm glad its coming along.
Keep strong!
Love and hugs Sarah xx
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Post by chica on Feb 22, 2008 13:36:11 GMT
Hi Rebecca, What fantastic news about your new job, I remember seeing one of those TV documentaries on training for an air company (not sure which one), and I remember thinking, how hard and dedicated that you have to be just to survive the course, so huge congratulations on your offer. I am sure it will be a brand new beginning for you, with lots of new places to go and people to meet. It is so exciting. Maybe until you move could you plant your rose bush in a planter and then that way, you could still take it with you, to your new location. Baby Alan, will indeed be very proud of you.
Sending you love and hugs Chica
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Post by stevensmummy on Feb 22, 2008 18:54:59 GMT
How are you today hunni?
Sarah xx
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Post by winegirl on Feb 22, 2008 19:08:32 GMT
Hi Rebecca
How are things for you today?? You still excited about the job?? Thinking of you x
WG x
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Post by rebecca on Feb 22, 2008 20:12:50 GMT
No tbh im not ok she has done it again or someone who really hates me has done it again to my babys headstone and demolished all the flowers everywhere they are why is it when im finally starting to look forward some horrible thing happens why can't people just leave my son to rest in peace and just try and let me get some remote closure and try to move on abit xxx
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Post by winegirl on Feb 22, 2008 21:45:15 GMT
Ring the police. This is disgusting. I am so sorry this hppening you to Rebecca, I have never heard of anything so horrendous. If you suspect it is her, then tell the police, a visit from them would stop her in her tracks. I am so sorry hun, if you lived near by I would come and help you clean it up and make it nice again.
Wish I could help. But try to remember, that as awful as it is, what is important are your thoughts ans memories of your short time th your baby. And your scrap book, and the rose bush you will plant. Because they are peronal between you two.
Always here for you hun x
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